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But i know deep inside me that i truly love her, i just cant control my anger. So maybe try that out. And straight from a unhealthy relationship in ours. His name has been Obama to many of you. The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by A New Mode, Inc. Luckily I am pretty independent, open minded, have a lot of interests and keep plenty busy.

2. You keep finding yourself in the same situations over and over again.

The slut I mentioned earlier omg what he says to her I wish he said to me. I too, am going thru the same thing and have been for over 17 months. How do you live with him? After we became a couple things were ok, i really liked him alot but did feel insecure of my weight and that i felt hurt he didnt act super attracted to me the way guys do when they are but at the same time he seemed to really want to be with me alot and called all the time etc. But says this over and over again.

Their fear of intimacy and also insecurity causes them to be blameless in all circumstances. A man, who has been a bachelor for most of his adult life, is going to always have a level of distance about him.

Being self-absorbed is a typical defense mechanism for emotionally unavailable men. This person will be unable to compromise and in order to avoid looking as the weaker one in the relationship, will say and do things to feel superior.

Men and women view and express things differently. From what I hear, the happier and more secure you are with yourself, the more your partner will be receptive to sharing more of himself with you. I ask these questions, in hopes to understand the man I love. Two key signs to know if your partner is emotionally unavailable: But he always make me disappointed.

Hi Wendy, I had the same situation. After a month he asks me to be his girlfriend and everything turns crazy. I was afraid to say something cause his mood was very unbalanced, he was angry then happy and I started to depress and feel anxious because this. I broke up the relationship and he never texts me again. I am currently dating someone for 6 months.

I feel very clos to him n he also says do but everytime our marriage is to be fixed i feel he finds excuse to pick up a fight and breaks off. All signs match because he made me feel that he liked my simplicity and now he talks of otber girls. If a male colleague or friend texts me in general once in a blue moon then also he investigates so much and beats me calling me names. And if I ignore him snd try to leave him, he suddenly becomes this victim and puts all blame at me. He drinks alot and smokes too.

I am so scared that I sometimes feel like running away. Also, being emotionally silly I still love him. My ex was abusive. Of course, it got worse. I even got a black eye once.

When I finally had enough, and held her down, she threaten to call the cops on me and said I abused her. The physical abuse extended towards my possessions. She broke two of my phones, did all kinds of things to my car, among other things. She was far more emotionally abusive. That was her specialty. Only when she was mad or sad. I thought i was alone but i see alot of women were going thru the same thing. I felt like a different person being belittled abused in every way u can imagine and i got out of that relationship.

It does hurt but i think i feel that way only because he brought me down to where i thought everyine hated me. Luckily i have friends n family that have always been there for me they were just waiting for me to leave but i didnt feel strong enough.

I know it will take time to mend my heart but im safe now. An abusive guy will say they r going to change but they never do. If ur in ths same situation get out as soon as possible because it only gets worst. If i wouldve stayed i would probably be murdered by the one i thought i loved but it isnt love. I know its scary to leave but its even more scary to stay and have to watch your back every second of ur life.

I was married to a woman for 24 years whom had 18 out of the 20 symptoms. Unfortunately my kids also had to go through this as well. I cant b too long. I am 48 years old, last year I met a guy we were friends and did enjoyable activities, he is also my age. I had been single for a few years and have a grown son and teen daughter going to college next year.

After we became a couple things were ok, i really liked him alot but did feel insecure of my weight and that i felt hurt he didnt act super attracted to me the way guys do when they are but at the same time he seemed to really want to be with me alot and called all the time etc.

I lost about 15 lbs and was actually feeling a little better about my apoearancr, one day wore a. I was so hurt humiliated he knows Im sensitive about that and right at that monent the sad part is i was actually feeling better, and he said i look like i could be four or five months preg, and i went home early that night just told him i didbt feel well. They havent seen my pain or times like that but now i guess i have to decide what to do.

Thank you for all the suggestions I read on this piece of abuse information. My husband is a true colour changing animal. He behaves normal to other people ,but when he is with us as a family ,he is so aggressive and spiteful ,stalking and abusing us psychologically ,emotionally ,damaging my property and ill treating our eleven year daughter.

Punching ,clapping ,and punching her between the thighs underneath. Pushing her away from me as a mother ,using vulgar language everyday ,harrasing us by shouting almost everyday. Threatening to kill us ,break all the windows.. Re enforcing to have sex with me as if nothing wrong is happening. Accusing me of adultery.

I just got dumped 2 months ago by a Psycopath.. I was with her for 4 years from start to finish.. ALL the signs were there.

Somehow I kept asking for her back!! She cut me off from the few friends i had and I was only allowed , in her eyes, to be in HER life. MY life was irrelevant!! I even knew what was happening.. I somehow felt guilty for everything. I went from a high paying job and no debt to leaving my job with a house I now must foreclose on that I bought for us and her kids and no friends or potential future. She is the sickest most disgusting person I have ever met. And she beat her oldest son even bit him and I wanna report her but the abuse was a few months ago and she has everyone including law enforcement believing I am the Psycho!!

I beleive the proof is in the leftovers. Who lost everything and who is out celebrating with her new Harley man?? That is the real test of who is who. I do have 2 DUIs i got since I met her so my record makes me a target as well. I used to think she was just narcissistic but no.. If she were a man I think she would be killing people..

I wanna expose her so much. God bless and prayers to all the other victims out there. I feel for you I am also going through a situation with similar traits…. I am at the lowest of lows…psychopaths know what to say and do to get anyone to do what they want…. Yes you are so right!! Same here… I dated a girl like this over 4 years ago. It seems like such a long time but the truth is I am still not over it.

Sometimes I look at my life and how she has completely destroyed me and I just want to cry sometimes. What hurts a lot is when I meet people who knew me before I dated her, and then they introduce themselves to me as I have become unrecognizable… when they realize who I am they quickly turn away… they cannot stand to look at me, to look me in the eyes and see what my ex has done to me.

My ex was a girl capable of unspeakable cruelty and I have not been able to date since. It has completely ruined my life. They get joy from it — and the people that you thought were your friends just run away. Everyone has secrets but to hide them when they are discovered by someone who really cares and wants to help no matter what hurts and will eventually be the death of me. While my info is out is the open hers is disclosed with much transparency.

How can life go on when it was someone you truly loved that never got the true meaning. Thanks for these comment I had to with my husband to three therapists and one psychrist he is allthese things and more i am ex miliitary as is he This decribes to the detail My boarderline dommetic violence spuose but he canbe well a the office and church he claims bad self esteem but on vacation or dinner interupts me he claims i talk at home he gets to talk at hos cgristmass party and our vactions had to stop the violence and get protection order he has major job and security clearence he plays mild and meek midwesterner but is angry and violent beyond belief made the mistake his wi ves have all left him 20s 30s 40s he can not hold a wife which he always blames for divorce.

Hehas high spending euphoria and complusively eats It is madness so had to get protection oder from court. What a sad sad world.

All I can say is I hope that my baby girl grows up happy and healthy despite of this being one of her parents mental and genetic make ups. Ditto, how have you dealt with this since you have been able to put a label to it? I think I am going through the same unfortunate time as you. Cqn we help each other perhaps? She is pure evil. At first she makes it all seem like you are the only one but johanna krisi tolonen is pure evil in every way. What is scary is that she uses her kids as a backup plan and extorting money from men.

I have just recently finished with my girlfriend from day one she lied about herself some of the lies where pointless no matter how many times I tried to talk to her about it there was a complete feeling of never being liserned to and it was all my fault.

I thank you for your info and it has been so helpful,now all I need to do is stop missing him. Any words of wisdom? Im only a couple of months into my relationship and would love to fix or learn to cope with this issue but fear i dont know enough to make an educated decision.

Afterall, this is a pretty serious subject! My boyfriend has all but two signs of a psychopath. He texted bombed me freaking out thinking I was mad at him and called me 4 times. I answered and I could tell he was drunk. He told me he was coming over the next day and hung up. The next day there was cuts on his arms.

I asked him what happened and he said nothing. I knew he cut him self I had friends from school who were depressed and done it. He finally answered and said he punished his self.

Because of me not answering him. He freaks out on me all the time. I started noticing after I thought I could have been pregnant. He is so strong and makes me feel so weak. He would always push me on the bed and sit on me and do everything in his power to get what he wants.

And would touch my sweet spots. He keeps telling me stories about all his ex girlfriends cheating on him and how his dad never really cared about him and that his mom hates him and is afraid of him.

Today I found out he was hanging out with his ex that he talks trash about all the time. When I confronted him he said that he only went to the mall with her we barely went to the mall because he never has money and hates it once. He knew I was mad. But he could lie to me and hide the fact that he was hanging out with her.

I could never cheat. Plus sometimes he makes me feel so stupid. I thought he was the one and I was wrong…I think it was lust and I was punished for it. I mean sometimes he is so sweet and spoils me. Have I alarmed you in response to an army of these kinds of beasts for people? Do any of you women? They are uncivilized people. And some of them have been uncivilized their entire life as them. If what they did was a behavioral study than it is the behavioralists that do require intense psychotherapy as people.

And I am qualified to make that factual truthful statement. Normally we get along amazingly. Talk about having kids and getting married.

But hardly any of his friends like me. I recently became friends with a good friend of his because I started working with her she revealed that she hated me at first because all he ever told her was bad things about me.

About three weeks ago I had a stressful day at work and went to the bar after with a few work friends for a beer. My phone died and I honestly lost track of time talking about the day with my coworkers. I had my bfs truck but assumed his good friend our roommate would pick him up. He mentioned he wanted to go out to eat lunch so i took extra time to look nice.

We got in the car and I asked him what was wrong he told me that he hates when he has to wait on me all the time. This hurt my feelings. He has some valid points. Sometimes I am a little irresponsible and take longer than I should for things. Every time we argue I acknowledge my part in the situation and try to gently express that there are some things he does that negatively affect me as well. I love him very much and both of us are new to relationships but I need to know how to work this out, how to confront him so that we can understand each other.

Im dating one rn. Im sitting in her bed rn. She just had a blowout. Shes got these dolls and said she would do something. I think it was because I didnt seem pleased enough for her because my answer to her question was just a head nod. She said thats not something u take lightly………. I just feel like im always WRONG even when I know I am right and she is a hypocrite and she has no remorse or care about my feelings or concerns. But she just said then dont come back if u think its so bad implying shes not gonna change.

Na im just kidding but im done. Hope to hear something back. Im also having a guy who is exactly doing the same thing with me. But I love him alot so that I cant leave him. I want to stay with him. So Im bearing all the pain he gives me. Praying Lord to make him a better man and love me more. He also checking my phone all the time. Whenever rings the phone or comes a text alert sometimes he is the one who answer it or rply it like me.

He has changed my facebook password and used to chat with my opposite side friends like me to see what am I in to with them. I have let him to do all these things because I know Im not wrong. Im not affraid of aything because I realy respect him and honost to him.

He is not letting me to go out alone to talk with friends and all. As well as he doesnt show to his friends, family and etc that we both are in a relationship.

Infront of his collegues and family friends Im just a friend to him. Hmmm pray for me guys. I really love him. I want him so im not gonnaleave him whtaever happens. But i feel so sad about me. I guess I m going crazy fro this girl and I always try to be strong and resolve and come to some kind of solution. She manipulate and makes me feel sad and turns everything around her.

And all the traits are same. Now I will not feel Guilty of anything.. Just want to stuck with all the comments. She talks to my roommates. I stay at some other place now I should feel she needs help seriously. Thanks I just want to keep this in mind. Please if possible email this article on my id. I married s man having each and every one of these characteristics. They are dirty, dishonest, lured, sneaky, psycho and most of all feel entitled to everything!!

Yes, there are women that can definitely be abusers too. My older brother 39 yrs old , is also involved in an abusive relationship. She belittles him, curses and yells at him constantly, has cheated on him openly, manages his wages, has left him to make him suffer because she knows he loves her unconditionally, and has isolated him from his family including parents.

So, yes, there ARE abusive women out in this world. I hope and pray, having realized you were in an abusive relationship, that you were able to put an end to it and have moved on to find happiness!

Sorry to hear a women abused you!!!! It hurts no matter who is doing to a human being or animal. But we we must pray lefting our hands to GOD thee almighty he loves us and never leave or forsake us. He will heal us, we have to seek him, he is closer then a brother. If I would have done it to my DOG it would never survived!!! I rather kill myself thats the most horrible person to be I hate how he abused ME Bad, even wanted to crash his CAR into truck on the highway. I am with a man like this now.

He has made me feel ugly. Picked me apart physically and everyone he sees. Wow, that is all I can say. My partner had every single trait you have just described. This is eye opening. Thank You so much for posting this article. I have everything that is listed here. And I am not ashamed of it. It is in my mind like that. I am making the best of it, but it will always be there. So deal with it.

No, Heiko — YOU deal with it. It is fun watching overconfident people like you get yours. Usually, your character types provide the most satisfying meltdowns. I have heard you women describe these kinds of men all over the globe. They are psychopaths for men and women. Men wanted to hunt these men down and kill them for what they have caused me.

If you as women put up with such a beast for a man or woman in your lives than it is you that is a desperate woman. Why would you put up with such scum as a man and or a woman in your lives? They tamper with your belongings. They think they are funny as predators. They are more primitive than the average person. I do not understand. And it took me in my ignorance in regards to them 4 years to comprehend what kind of person that I have had swarming around me my entire life as them.

I suppose that is why it took me 4 years to try and wrap my mind around the kind of beast for people that you have all labeled upon this page.

You have defined them clearly. What part of them reading what they are in a lesser definition of lesser beast to you do people not comprehend in regards to themselves upon me? I have had an army of psychopaths attacking and assaulting me as sexual predators for six solid years or more.

They needed to be stopped. Not falsely and wrongfully empowered. My ex boyfriend is everything on this list. I feel as if I wasted four months with him.

We are just friends right now but even that makes me uncomfortable. Just be glad it was only 4 months. I married this person and had 2 kids before I realized he was always going to act this way. He definitely was a master manipulator. My boyfriend has these terrible traits. This is not good get rid of him. Your will never be happy…believe me its going to get worst—unless u both give ur life to The Lord…They are sick and discussting animals.

Even an animal will come to you and make u feel better. There is no name for these creatures of HELL…. I was in the same situation, we are both Christians and then he quit going to Church.

He is crazy and I finally told him I was leaving. He then turned it on me and called the cops because while ibwa packing I told him everything I held in for two years. Like how crazy he is and you quit taking your meds etc. I still love him and miss him and the good times but know its for the better. I have been in counseling and we determined he has PPD paranoid personality disorder..

He thinks people are following us because he suit the people who abused him as a child and got 4 million dollars. I walked away from a nice looking guy with a great body and lots of fun half the time for my sanity. So thank you for getting the restraining order to protect me from your crazy mind.. God Bless and find a way to get out if u can. You must find the courage to leave ,when they are at work or out of town.

Dont let them know where you are ,change your number or dont answer phone,texts, no communication. They will try to write letters and call to get back with you. These indiviuals have to seek help on their own , most dont think they are the problem. I myself felt like I was buried alive , breathing shallow in coffin.

They cunning and manipulate. The pain never ends unless you find the courage to save yourself. You can do it ,You have the power within yourself.

They make you doubt yourself, second guess decisions. I know I was married to one for a long time. Now Im free and happy. An anti -social person is insensitive towards others…. Hanging out with you is like playing Russian Roulette- you never know at any given time whether u r safe or not from emotional invalidation, psychological mind games and physical posturing.

Seriously, I completely agree with Cheryl. I am divorcing one right now and am scared of the lies he will most likely say in court even though I catered to his every whim when we were married to try and keep the peace. I am much happier now though than I could have ever been with him.

However, I told and tell myself that true love should not hurt and nothing I say ir do could have changed them or make things better. One day, in the midst of being at the lowest point from rhe last relationship, I told myself I needed to fix myself and life. Boy, was that a long journey and still is.

This is what I did and I pray it helps or guides you in some way:. Dropped communication with him at all costs very hard because I had impulses to call him back or respond but I simply reminded myself of all the pain he caused and how I need to put the pieces back to my life 2. Sought therapy Mind you, I struggled to get out of bed and developed Major Depressive Disorder and just had his kid and c section, and so much more 3.

Cut off all negativity of my life either it being people, situations or places that reminded me of him 4. Obtained positive mentors 5.

Reached out to church more this was a huge contribution to my journey of healing! Attended bible studies and church no matter what 7. Remembering and finding the real me 8. Reminding myself I am valuable and amazing 9. Began and still do attend weekly group therapy in a domestic violence agency Got on waiting list to have a domestic violence counselor Every day reading the bible even 10 min a day can fo wonders and remembering reciting His promises Reading more about his personality disorder and accepting he needs professional help and it eas not my fault what he did.

Although I may have missed other things I do or have done, these are the major ones that come to mind. Please know I have not had any communication with him in about 6 months and I feel and see a much more positive difference in me. My old me is coming back slowly but surely. Next time, I will listen to my gut and really take my time when dating to avoid this again. We know the signs now!! My Ex has all the trait that you listed on here. I wrote my enormous life event of living a monster ex-husband.

Took me 31 months to finally break free from him. I was destroyed by this thing that pretended to a man. I agree I just got out of a relationship like this. It is all a head game with people like this. I just feel sorry for the next victim because that is what you become!!!

I am trying to get my life back together now and I wont lie I do think about him sometimes. But I am so glad its over!!! I really dont see how people can leave like this. I am so glad i have good friends and family. I left my husband four weeks ago. I was single and happy for 14 years, met him online and it was like we were twin souls.

I feel like life is no longer an option, he gave me everything I ever wanted — I thought — but since researching Sociopaths realise he was mirroring my every thought. I am seeking help — for now I see nothing but black in my future.

I finally realised I had to leave but because I was devoted to him, There is a huge void and I am struggling to survive. The same happened to me, we had soo much in common, but all of it was just him saying what I wanted to hear — have finally seen through it, just getting out now after the 4th or 5th time trying to end it..

He has lived this way all his life and is a profesional victim creating drama and serious debt wherever he goes and blaming other people, after speaking to his freind who told me just how much money he borrows from all his friends and how is manages it I am finally done.

This time I have to be strong and try to find out who I am again as I am an empty shell after trying to help, support and advise someone who will never change-he made sure my life revolved around only him, with 24 hour contact and visiting so I only had time for him and ignored my freinds and family for 2. Oh i have read many articles now concerning those types. My ex-partner had all of these traits..

Now just getting over it.. Because they hurt me sooo much. And can do this to someone that gave her everything.. I know now you cant fix anyone.. But it was soo hard.

I was with her for 4 years.. And finally after 4 years, the truth revealed itself…. She cheated soo many times and lied about everything.. I believe I am with someone like that now. I am constantly trying to fix what I have done wrong.

I feel like a child. He makes me feel stupid on every subject. His ex girls has warned me but he told me that there will be people that will say things about him because of his work. He was always the sweetest most thoughtful person I have ever met.

It took about 3 months into the relationship for me to start seeing some of his traits, unfortunately it was after I moved in with him and he got everything in his name. So now here I am without a job, no vehicle cause I spent every dollar I had on the house with 3 kids. I have tried to leave and he made me feel bad about it saying that everyone gives up on him and no one takes the time to understand him.

He has made me look at myself totally different. If I am in a good mood it never last long. He always tells I am prettiest when I smile but then he is always making me cry.

I just feel stuck. I have the same situation. I am with my partner for about 7 years, I had a job,rented a flat in centre london,had savings.

He was so sweet and nice,we mooved together and after one year when I was pregnant he become an abusive. He was illigal,but he got a visa because he is my partner and we have a son. Now I am with 2 kids, no money and have nowhere to go. For god sake please leave. Go to a refuge anywhere. I was in an abusive relationship for about a year. I never loved myself enough to move one.

However, I recently found out that I was pregnant. It only took my a week after finding out to leave him. My child was already more important than any threat he proposed. I allowed him to treat me the way he did but would never allow him to do that to my child. He claims I am trying to take his child away from him, I would never do that to any man, but I will take my child away from a situation I feel would be harmful. Previously I had tried to leave him many times but he always pulled me bam with the empty promises and threats and I found myself being extremely upset after out break ups.

He would use my purse to steal coasters from bars. This guy makes a decent living, but all this is reflects his sense of entitlement. I was annoyed and told him so but he continued communications with her. They continued to sext one another up to the point he was dating me. Then it just became mundane conversations. He did turn down a dinner offer from another ex but told her to not stop inviting him in the future. That was a year into our relationship. My arm got into a burn accident and he showed no signs of reciprocal care.

Sounded annoyed when I told him I feel crappy. His breaking up with me was ghosting me after being in a relationship with me for 2 years. He continued to use my HULU account a month after we broke up and I decided to change my passwords on him. I flat out asked him what his intentions were because I have no interest in being a part of his harem of exes to boost his ego.

He got mad at me telling me I always blow things out of proportion and I have grandiose accusations. I detailed his actions of ghosting, dangling, ignoring etc… As his exit strategy then posting on various social media THE DAY OF our breakup of him laughing and having a good time is very hurtful. Threw it back at me that emotional outbursts like this reminds him why he broke up with me. I told him inconvenience is if I have to sit at a tarmat for 3 hours with a screaming baby on a plane.

What he did was emotionally traumatizing and abandonment issue inducing. Good luck to her. I ended up cooking for him and doing his fucking laundry. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. The trauma was so bad I experienced dissociation for the first time in my life. It gives me hope. Thank you so much for your sweet message. I can and do completely empathize with you.

All my love to you sister xoxo. Thank you for being you, love. I just broke it off with a guy I was dating. He was very manipulative and did not give a damn about my feelings.

Always blamed everything on me and made me feel like complete crap. Thank God I broke that off! I deserve so much better. Your blog is really helping me to see what kind of man he is. I was nodding my head to like all 20 hahhaa. I guess I am only attracted to successful hot man that probably have many woman to choose from. Do you think if i was better they would have stayed? And the thoughts of the other girls they left me for being a better catch than me torture me every night… sorry if I made any grammar mistakes, English is my second language… greetings from Venezuela!

Keep up the amazing work! Your email address will not be published. First off, what is a narcissist? I believe that narcissists present themselves as someone that:

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The attraction was enormous, for both of us, on the first date. I told him numerous times what those words feel towards me and it just goes past his head.

5 signs youre dating an emotionally unavailable person

I agree I did what you said play like you are depress and boring it does work. Might it be low self esteem? As we have established the majority of men out there are EUM!!!

5 signs youre dating an emotionally unavailable person

And everyone one of those men is the same man, different face. Im writing this and being verbally abused as I write this but I have learned emotiojally block it out. I am a married, separated woman of three months who started seeing an ex-bf. You are 5 signs youre dating an emotionally unavailable person him to mistreat you by accepting it. And you will meet someone a million times better. I almost checked off everything on this list! But says this over and over again.