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Upper-class Chileans exaggerate their particular way of speaking to indicate their social predominance. It is a form of courtship , consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others. A Portuguese and Malay speaking Vietnamese woman who lived in Macao for an extensive period of time was the person who interpreted for the first diplomatic meeting between Cochin-China and a Dutch delegation, she served as an interpreter for three decades in the Cochin-China court with an old woman who had been married to three husbands, one Vietnamese and two Portuguese. People became more mobile. By the late twentieth century, allusions in textbooks and political discourse to "whiteness," or to Spain as the "mother country" of all Costa Ricans, were diminishing, replaced with a recognition of the multiplicity of peoples that make up the nation.

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Today, the institution of dating continues to evolve at a rapid rate with new possibilities and choices opening up particularly through online dating. The "Bride Price" was a large sum of money defined in the Ketubbah that the groom had to pay the father of the bride if: He states that they had a near-monopoly of the trade in girls and women, and that: Retrieved August 29, Retrieved 30 July Retrieved 9 December Romantic love is more difficult during times of financial stress, and economic forces can encourage singles, particularly women, to select a partner primarily on financial considerations.

Thirty-two percent of the population was 14 years old or under, while 5 percent was 65 or older. Annual population growth was 2. The country had Average fertility was 2. The drop in birth rates was attributed to rising female literacy, to a decline in the proportion of the population working in agriculture, and to increased access to family planning. Despite the influential Catholic Church's opposition to contraception, in , 86 percent of sexually active women of childbearing age used birth control.

Spanish is the official language, but the variant spoken has features particular to Costa Rica. On the Atlantic coast, however, descendants of Caribbean immigrants speak English, as do many others throughout the country who learned it to better their employment prospects.

The national flag, a partial imitation of the French tricolor, consists of blue horizontal stripes on the top and bottom of the flag and two white inner stripes divided by a wide red stripe, which contains the national coat of arms to the left of center. Aside from the flag and religious icons, important symbols include flags of the major political parties green and white for the National Liberation Party; red and blue for the Social Christians and of the most popular soccer teams.

Emergence of the Nation. In it annexed much of the province of Guanacaste from Nicaragua. Elites had to improvise a national identity following independence. Border disputes with Nicaragua and Colombia to which Panama belonged until fanned feelings of distinctiveness in the late nineteenth century, as did the creation of a national school system. Costa Ricans pride themselves on having a society "different" from the rest of Central America. They point to their country's high levels of education and health, its renowned national parks, and its history of democracy and political stability.

Despite this "exceptionalism," the country shares many social, economic, and environmental problems with its neighbors. As much as 95 percent of Costa Ricans consider themselves "white. The indigenous population that survived the conquest was small and, for the most part, rapidly became Hispanic. In the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, successful males of African, Indian, or mixed ancestry married poorer "Spanish" women, using "whitening" to assure their children's upward mobility.

In the nineteenth century, immigration from Europe and the United States "whitened" the population, particularly the elite. During the twentieth century, the definition of "whiteness" became more inclusive, as elites sought to convince mestizos that they were part of a "homogeneous" nation distinct from the "Indians" elsewhere in Central America.

In Guanacaste and northern Puntarenas, much of the population is descended from Indians and colonial-era slaves. They are Hispanic in culture and language, though their pronunciation resembles Nicaraguan more than central Costa Rican Spanish. Many move between these communities and Panama, and until those born in Costa Rica lacked identity documents and access to state services. The Guatusos or Malecus violently repulsed outsiders' incursions until the s when rubber tappers began to kill Indian men and kidnap women and children, who were sold as slaves in Nicaragua.

The population plummeted to below two hundred, never recovering even half its pre-contact size. The Chorotegas practiced maize agriculture and were among the first targets of the Spanish conquest in the area that became Costa Rica. Many of the first Spanish colonists in Costa Rica may have been Jewish converts to Christianity who were expelled from Spain in and fled to colonial backwaters to avoid the Inquisition.

The first sizable group of self-identified Jews immigrated from Poland, beginning in From the s to the early s, journalistic and official anti-Semitic campaigns fueled harassment of Jews; however, by the s and s, the immigrants won greater acceptance. Most of the 2, Costa Rican Jews today are not highly observant, but they remain largely endogamous. In the Atlantic Railroad imported Chinese indentured laborers, hoping to duplicate the success of rail projects that used Chinese labor in Peru, Cuba, and the United States.

Many Chinese fled the snake-infested lowlands, while others died from malaria, landslides, and overseers' brutality. Other Central Americans had long come to Costa Rica to work in agriculture, especially in the banana zones. In the s, Nicaraguans and Salvadorans fled violence and economic crises to work as farmhands, laborers, servants, and street vendors. Many foreigners have taken advantage of the Pensionado Law, which grants residency to investors and exempts them from import duties.

By the late twentieth century, allusions in textbooks and political discourse to "whiteness," or to Spain as the "mother country" of all Costa Ricans, were diminishing, replaced with a recognition of the multiplicity of peoples that make up the nation.

Almost all towns have a central plaza with a Catholic church, government buildings, bandstand, and benches. Rural villages have grassy squares that double as soccer fields. Beyond the downtown grids are "urbanizations" that resemble U.

Few colonial constructions survive, and many contemporary buildings would elsewhere be considered kitsch. The cities suffer from severe air, water, and noise pollution.

Food in Daily Life. Maize is consumed as tortillas, which accompany rice and beans—typically eaten three times a day with eggs, cheese, meat, or chicken and with chayote stew or salad at lunch or supper.

The midday meal was once the largest, but the long lunch break has succumbed to a fondness for fast food. Beverages include coffee, sugary fruit drinks, and soda. Alcohol consumption is high. Food Customs at Ceremonial Occasions. Salty appetizers are served at parties and at bars and restaurants.

Maize tamales are prepared by hand for Christmas. Other special occasions birthdays, graduations, marriages may merit a roasted pig, an elaborate cake, or other sweets. Until the s, Costa Rica depended on coffee and bananas for most of its export earnings. Coffee income was well distributed, which fueled a dynamic commercial sector.

After the Civil War, nationalized banks channeled subsidized loans to neglected regions and new activities. In the s, beef and sugar assumed greater importance, and the country began to industrialize, protected by Central American Common Market tariffs. Following a debt crisis in the early s, the state reduced its role in the economy and promoted export-oriented agriculture and industries. Since the late s, tourism has been the second largest source of dollars, after bananas.

Land Tenure and Property. Costa Rica has an image as an "agrarian democracy," but land distribution is highly unequal. Land reform programs in the s and s broke up some estates and distributed plots to peasants. Conflicts between large farmers and squatters are frequent and sometime result in violence. City and town residents now rely on supermarkets rather than neighborhood stores and farmers' markets.

Growing consumerism has spurred construction of malls where the affluent acquire the latest fashions and gadgets and the poor come to gawk and marvel at the high prices. Since the mids, Costa Rica has become a center for factories that assemble garments, electronic components, and other goods for export.

Other key manufactures include baseballs, agricultural chemicals, and processed foods. The economy is increasingly integrated into global circuits of trade, production, and finance. Coffee and bananas are the country's chief agricultural exports, along with beef, sugar, flowers, nuts, and root vegetables. The economy diversified after , and new groups emerged. In , agriculture accounted for 19 percent of employment and 15 percent of gross domestic product GDP , under half of levels.

Many upper-class families are descended from a few Spanish conquistadores. Levels of interaction between social classes were nonetheless high well into the twentieth century. Members of prominent families intermarried with other groups, especially wealthy European, Latin American, and North American immigrants.

In Guanacaste and northern Puntarenas more rigid patterns of class relations are the norm. The coffee elite, which dominated politics and society from the mid-nineteenth to the mid-twentieth century, derived most of its wealth from coffee processing and the export trade, not from ownership of plantations.

Coffee also gave rise to a rural middle class. The Costa Rican middle class constitutes a larger proportion of the population— perhaps one-quarter—than in other Central American countries.

Costa Rica is no longer a country of peasants. The opening of the University of Costa Rica in and the expansion of the public sector after provided new opportunities for upwardly mobile young people. Yet poverty remained significant, affecting one-fifth of the population at the close of the twentieth century. Nonetheless, in , the United Nations ranked Costa Rica fourth among developing nations worldwide that have made progress in eliminating severe poverty.

Symbols of Social Stratification. The culture of consumption—in which clothes, cars, houses, and trips abroad are markers of status—is most conspicuous among members of the upper middle class, roughly 10 percent of the population.

The government has four branches: In addition, many autonomous public sector institutions were created in the s and s. Most were privatized, downsized, or abolished in the s and s. Leadership and Political Officials. Presidential and legislative elections are held every four years. Presidents generally appoint cabinet ministers and many other central government officials and employees. Costa Ricans are passionate about party loyalties, which often run in families and generally date to the s when a social democratic insurgency overthrew a Catholic-Communist reformist coalition government and ushered in the modern welfare state.

Regionalist parties occasionally elected legislative deputies or local officials. Social Problems and Control. With the economic crisis of the early s, violent street crime skyrocketed and remains high today. Firearms from wars elsewhere in Central America were easily acquired. Costa Rica became a transshipment point for Colombian cocaine bound for the United States. The emergence of private financial institutions in the s facilitated money laundering.

The military was abolished following the Civil War. Private guards protect businesses and middle- and upper-class communities. In the s and s, northern Costa Rica served as a base for armed Nicaraguan Sandinistas and then for anti-Sandinistas.

Costa Rica has made remarkable strides in improving living standards. Most Costa Ricans enjoy access to free health care, basic education, and social services. Free-market policies have forced reductions in spending, but health and education indicators remain impressive. Costa Rica hosts dozens of nongovernmental organizations, many of which operate throughout Central America. Public-sector and banana-worker unions were important until the s.

Farmers attending a cattle sale in Capelin, Liberia. Agriculture, especially bananas and coffee, is one of the biggest parts of the Costa Rican economy.

Since then, employee-sponsored solidarista associations—which provide loans and other benefits— have replaced many unions. Division of Labor by Gender. Women are still responsible for food preparation, childcare, and cleaning. Men rely on mothers and wives or hired help. The middle and upper classes employ servants for housework and childcare. Heavy agricultural labor is performed by men and adolescent boys. Women harvest coffee, cotton, and vegetables.

The Relative Status of Women and Men. Gender relations are similar to those elsewhere in Latin America, although women have achieved greater equality than in some other countries.

Gender relations are in flux, with marked differences between generations and social groups. Women increasingly combine traditional responsibilities with work and education. Men dominate business and politics, but many women have held cabinet posts or are prominent in arts and professions. A Law for Promoting the Women's Social Equality prohibited discrimination and established a women's rights office.

Costa Ricans' median age at first union is twenty-one for women and twenty-four for men. Premarital sex, expected of men, has become more common for women. Divorce and separation are frequent.

Many upper-class men maintain mistresses and second families. The National Child Welfare Board garnishes wages of men who fail to pay child support and blocks them from traveling abroad. Most families are in practice extended, with elderly or other kin in the household and other relatives nearby. Female-headed, multi-generational households are common among the poor.

Costa Ricans use their fathers' and mothers' last names to reckon descent. Inheritance is partible, but practiced with flexibility. Since , the property of unmarried couples must be registered in the woman's name. Infants are dressed warmly, because "air" is considered harmful. Girls have their ears pierced shortly after birth. Almost half of mothers no longer breast feed.

Most parents request that a friend or affluent neighbor be a godparent to their newborn. Child Rearing and Education.

Children are treated with indulgence until age four or five, when they tend to be disciplined more consistently. Disciplinary practices vary greatly, from corporal punishment to withholding treats.

Poor children often help with chores at an early age. Primary school attendance is universal; secondary school enrollment rates are very high. The educational system emphasizes rote learning and memorization, rather than analytical thinking. The adult literacy rate is One-quarter of the universityage population enrolls in higher education. Four public universities enroll four-fifths of the students; the rest attend three dozen private institutions.

The undergraduate curriculum consists of a year of education in liberal arts and sciences followed by three or four years of specialized courses, leading to a university bachelor's degree.

Students may opt for a year of additional work, involving a written thesis, that leads to a licenciatura, the main credential required for most advanced positions. Medicine and law are undergraduate careers. Costa Ricans consider themselves "cultured" and polite. Children, parents, and age-mates are often addressed in the formal second-person.

Men greet each other with a handshake, while women greet female and male friends and relatives with a kiss. Dating and courtship, once highly ritualized, are approaching U. Much socializing goes on in restaurants and bars. Malicious gossip is common and a source of both delight and apprehension.

The Catholic heritage remains important in everyday language and culture. Was it not for Rachel that I served with you? Why then have you deceived me? Laban also gave his maid Bilhah to his daughter Rachel as her maid. So Jacob went in to Rachel also, and indeed he loved Rachel more than Leah, and he served with Laban for another seven years.

Gen 24 Contract stage 1 Gen Consummation stage 2 Gen Gen 29 Contract stage 1 Gen Celebration stage 3 Gen The father of the bride would use his wisdom to look out for the best interests of his daughter. The bride was seen as being completely under her father's control. For example, if a man sleeps with a virgin, they generally got married, but her father had to consent. Polygamy was rare at the time of Christ The bride's Estate Inventory: An accounting of assets cash, property, livestock, businesses etc.

Just like today's legal documents, the ketubah was signed in triplicate where the father, the groom each got a copy and a third one was "filed" with the court synagogue with a seal to be broken only by a judge. Many copies of ancient Ketubboth have been unearthed through archeology. Confusion over Jewish Betrothal: The couple was legally married, but sexual co-habitation has not yet begun until stage two up to a year later. Although called betrothal, it was not equivalent to our modern engagement today, which is nothing more than "monogamous promise dating" with no legal consequences if broken.

Once signed, a legal divorce was required to dissolve the "betrothal". Child brides were cultural norms in both Israeli and Arabic cultures: Josephus tells of several instances where children were married, sometimes for political advantage: Accordingly the damsel, upon this change of her espousals, was disposed of to this young man, the son of Pheroras, the king giving for her portion a hundred talents.

And I pray God that he will join these children together in marriage, to the advantage of my kingdom, and of my posterity ; and may he look down with eyes more serene upon them than he looked upon their fathers! So he resolved by all the ways possible to get these espousals dissolved. Notice the language of "marriage contract" is exactly what we see in the Bible.

News report that speaks of stage 1 Contract with a delay for stage 2 Consummation: Call it marriage, Islamic style. Saudi marriage officiant Dr. Ahmad al-Mu'bi told Lebanese television viewers last week that it's permissible for girls as young as 1 to marry — as long as sex is postponed. Al-Mu'bi's remarkable comments also included an explanation that "there is no minimal age for entering marriage. Afterwards, he would lead her in a ceremonial procession to a wedding feast at his house. Stage 3 The parable of the ten virgins Mt Once the ketubah was signed, the couple did not have sex until the groom fulfilled his financial obligations to the father of the bride.

A delay might last years, as in the case of Jacob, who had to work 7 years for Laban, before he could sleep with his wife Rachel. The night Laban tricked Jacob at the end of 7 years by giving him Leah instead of Rachel. Jacob had already made a legal contract with Laban for Rachel and was married to her for 7 years, but not permitted to have sex with her.

When he was tricked, he made a second legal contract that at the end of the wedding week, he would be allowed to have sex with Rachel, but would have to work another 7 years afterwards.

Josephus records that Herod the Great married Mariamne, the daughter of Alexander, but then waited 4 years before consummating. Here is a time of 4 years between stages one and two in Israel at the time of Christ. The Chuppah has undergone a gradual evolution of meaning.

It began as the "virginity cloth" that lay under the bride when she consummated the marriage. Then the cloth change its position from under the bride on the bed, to over the bride on the bed as a canopy. So the sheet began under the bride, then over the bride in private, then over the bridal couple in public. Originally, the chuppah may have been the "proof of virginity" bedsheet that the couple placed under the bride when they first copulate.

The chuppah is a four posted canopy under which the couple are married in modern Jewish synagogues. The chuppah, was the "Bridal Suite" where the couple first have sex, similar to the special rooms hotels provide couples on their wedding night. The chuppah is a literal canopy sheet over the four bed posts of the bed on which the marriage is consummated The chuppah is also known as a Huppah, baldachin or baldaquin.

The event of consummation was as complex as it was important: When the groom satisfied the father of the bride that he had fulfill the financial and legal requirements of the ketubah, he would set a date for the chuppah and notify the bride. The chuppah wedding room with the bed would be prepared for the couple. The bride and the groom might have up to ten friends who would act as witnesses to the event. This was called the "proof of virginity cloth" that the bride would bleed onto, as she lay on top of it during copulation.

Both the groom's parents and the parents of the bride would assign several formal witnesses to the event and would wait outside or in an adjoining room while the couple consummated the marriage in the wedding bed.

So this joy of mine has been made full. The parable of the ten virgins illustrates the tradition of the chuppah: Tamar never married because of her rape, but lived in Absalom's house because she was not a virgin. The bride price was usually set at 50 shekels of silver, making a false claim about your wife's virginity was a shekel fine.

If the wife got pregnant before the chuppah formal stage two consummation ceremony it was no big deal and the child was not considered a bastard. However, this left the bride vulnerable to future accusations of not being a virgin, since she would have no "virginity cloth". This is the case of Mary, when she told Joseph she was pregnant. This custom continues in some places in the Near East. And she shall remain his wife; he cannot divorce her all his days. The elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him.

They shall fine him one hundred pieces of silver which they shall give to the father of the girl, because he the husband has tried to ruin the reputation of an Israelite virgin. He probably does so in order to get out of the marriage—should he simply divorce her without cause, he would probably forfeit the bride-price—or perhaps to get the bride-price reduced to that of a nonvirgin on the bride-price, see Comment to Upon this evidence the slandering husband is flogged, fined, and prohibited from ever divorcing the bride.

During this period, a virgin bride was normally married in midweek so that, if her husband found her not to be a virgin, he could bring proof to the court the following day, which would still be in advance of the Sabbath. The marriage was normally consummated on the first night Gn Such friends of the bridegroom were thus able to certify to the wedding guests that the consummation of the marriage had taken place and the joyous festivities could continue cf.

John gladly accepted his role as a friend of the bridegroom. Just as he had earlier willingly turned over his disciples to Jesus in a self-giving act 1: This brief parable, therefore, serves as a powerful illustration. The true Bible story of the birth of Jesus: The Holy Spirit calls Joseph "her husband" before they had "come together" she was a virgin Joseph was going to divorce her. Mary was in a vulnerable position at the mercy of her husband: She was pregnant before the chuppah formal stage two consummation ceremony and had no "virginity cloth".

He did not want to disgrace her even though he believed she was an adulterer. He was going to divorce her secretly by merely handing her the "get" divorce paper without making an accusation of adultery. This meant that Joseph was required to return the inventory of assets the bride had brought into the marriage and pay the "bride price" to her father. He was righteous because he had grounds to accuse her, "get even with her" as is the motive in many divorces, keep her inventory of assets and not have to pay the 50 shekel bride price.

Joseph had everything to gain by openly accusing her and it cost him much to divorce her secretly. How many divorcing spouses would give up a solid, winnable legal position in court and adopt the losing position, merely to protect the reputation of their spouse at great personal financial disaster? Choice Whose reputation was harmed? Who got the bride's dowry Joseph pays 50 shekel fine?

The Song of Solomon: Bride to the Groom: In the end she chooses the shepherd boy. Notice that she, not her father, made the choice of who she was going to marry. In fact the Shulammite's parents are never actively present in the story. This illustrates that a good father will take his daughters advice and feelings into account when making a decision, just like a good husband will take his wife's advice and feelings into account before making a decision.

It seems her father allowed his daughter the freedom to choose her husband and then sign the ketubbah with the man of her choice. The consent of the bride is also seen in Rebekah: The imagery of all these ancient marriage customs is the foundation of our salvation in Christ. Christ supplies His saving blood as a substitute for our own virgin blood that we lack because we were spiritual harlots on our wedding night. Before we were saved, we were worthless "harlots" who had lost our virginity.

A woman found not to be a virgin on her wedding night was put to death. The blood of Christ makes us into spiritual virgins on our consummation night second coming and keeps us from being stoned. Christ allows us to experience a kind of "virginity recaptured" through his blood. There are three stages to our marriage to Christ, exactly like a real marriage. The legal contract of when we became Christians by faith, repentance, confession and baptism by immersion into the Body of Christ.

At this moment of water baptism, we are born again and married betrothed to Christ. This contract binds each to what they agreed to do: Christians must be obedient to Christ and he will save us! Much more then, having now been justified by His blood [stage 1: For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. The consummation is the second coming when we, the bride wait to hear the shout of Jesus and his companions.

At this time, the faithful will be found to be "pure virgins" "For I Paul am jealous for you with a godly jealousy; for I betrothed [stage 1: Consummation stage 2 Mt Today, we combine all three customs into one day: Contract is the signing of the marriage license Wedding feast is the reception Consummation happens in the bridal suite that night in the hotel. No marriage unless the woman says yes and accepts a ring.

Weeks or years later the groom prepares for the bride Contract Stage 1 Groom or agent of groom signs a contract with the father of the bride The bride and groom sign the marriage license at the wedding ceremony. Consummation stage 2 Weeks or years later when the groom has met the conditions of the contract the father of the bride consents to consummation Happens in the honeymoon suite of the hotel after reception Celebration Stage 3 Days or weeks Reception after signing of marriage contract at ceremony.

There was no "wedding ceremony" in the synagogue in the first century, performed under a canopy where the bride and groom would hold hands and say, "I do" before an audience of friends and family. Marriages in the Bible had three steps: Legal marriage by signing a written contract ketubbah between the father of the bride and the groom. Once signed, the couple were as married as they will ever be even if they never complete the next two stages.

It required a formal legal divorce called a "get" to loose both parties from the marriage bond. Consummation of the marriage chuppah at the bride's home with a "virginity cloth" up to 7 years or more after the contract was signed. Wedding feast at the groom's home. Christians are the church, the virgin bride of Christ. Christ used his blood to make pure virgins Christians out of spiritual harlots non-Christians.

No matter how sinful we have been in the past, Christ has chosen us, cleansed us and married us by ketubbah contract: There are conditions we must meet in order fulfill the ketubbah legal contract we signed when we became Christians through faith and water Baptism Mk How incredibly beautiful are Paul's words to the notoriously immoral Corinthian church.

The city of Corinth had such a bad reputation of NOT being a virgin, that when a young girl started to sleep around with men and live a wild life of immoral drunkenness, they would say, "She has Corinthisized". There was likely a very high percentage of the Christian women at who attended weekly with the church at Corinth, were not virgins on their wedding day yet Paul calls them "pure virgins": Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals , nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. Just as the Shulammite and Rebekah consented to the arranged marriages, so too Christians much chose Jesus as their groom. Shulammite chose, not her parents: Song of Solomon 8: God's Pattern for Marriage in the Bible 2. Ancient Jewish three stage Wedding customs 3.

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